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If you’ve been in a long-term relationship, it’s only natural to start wondering, “When are they going to propose?” Getting engaged is such a momentous and exciting milestone in your life, but before you dive into ring shopping and wedding dreams, it’s worth asking yourself another important question: “Am I truly ready?” Here are a few signs that it might be the right time!

When Will They Propose?

It’s exciting to dream about all the ways your partner might propose. On average, couples get engaged after about two to three years of dating, but timelines don’t mean much if you’re not truly ready. Both partners need to feel happy, secure, and prepared to take that next step. Before saying yes to forever, make sure you’ve had honest conversations about the big things like core values, finances, and what you both envision for your future together.

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Signs They’re About to Propose

Now, if you have a feeling the proposal is just around the corner, here are some telltale signs that it might be on its way!

1. A Sudden Interest in Jewelry (Especially Engagement Rings)

One of the most obvious signs is when your partner starts asking about your jewelry preferences, like whether you prefer silver or gold, or if you’d choose a round or square diamond. They might even suggest going ring shopping “just for fun.” And if they’re the thoughtful or sneaky type, don’t be surprised if they start asking your family or friends for their opinions, too!

2. They’re Paying Attention to Your Style and Aesthetic

Your partner might suddenly start dropping hints about your wardrobe, hair, or nails. They are taking a little more interest in your appearance than usual. Maybe they suggest you get your nails done or casually mention how great that new outfit would look for a “special night out.” If it’s not your partner doing the hinting, your friends might be in on it too. They might be asking oddly specific questions or insisting you look extra put-together for an upcoming event. When everyone around you seems unusually invested in your look, there’s a good chance something exciting is about to happen!

3. They’ve Planned a Romantic Trip or Weekend Getaway

These days, it’s become really popular to plan a romantic getaway and pop the question during the trip. So if your partner suddenly seems eager to book a weekend escape or a surprise vacation, it might be more than just a change of scenery. They could be planning for you to come home with a sparkling new souvenir on your finger!

4. A Special Occasion is Coming Up

Just like a romantic getaway, special occasions are the perfect time to propose. They’re already filled with love and celebration, making it easy to turn a meaningful day into an extra special one. Plus, it’s the perfect setup. You’re already preparing for one event, so you won’t suspect there’s another surprise waiting for you!

5. They Seem Nervous or Distracted

Changes in behavior can feel a little unsettling, but when a proposal is on the horizon, it’s almost always part of the process. Your partner might seem nervous, distracted, or even a bit secretive. Try not to jump to conclusions. Give them space and resist the urge to press too hard. You don’t want to accidentally spoil the surprise!

6. They’re Suddenly Protective of Their Phone

Again, try not to jump to conclusions. They’re probably just trying to keep the surprise under wraps! These days, everyone keeps their important plans and notes on their phone, so don’t be alarmed if your partner suddenly guards it a little more closely. If they start taking calls in another room or seem extra protective of their screen, chances are they’re just making sure the big moment stays a secret!

7. They’re Talking About the Future Together

If your partner starts talking more about the values you discussed earlier, they might be trying to confirm that you’re the one for them. As romantic as love at first sight can be, a lasting relationship requires more than sparks. It requires alignment on what you both want out of life. While priorities may shift over time, having strong communication in place helps you navigate those changes together. And though disagreements aren’t always pretty, working through them shows how well you function as a team and whether you can continue supporting each other even during tough times.

8. Your Family or Friends Are Acting Strange

It’s not just your partner’s behavior that might change. Your family and friends could be in on the secret too! Maybe your mom is a little extra emotional, or your sibling is acting strangely secretive. Try not to press for answers, or you might accidentally make them spill the surprise!

9. Your Intuition Says They’re Going to Propose

Trust your gut. If you’ve been with your partner for a while, you just know. Sometimes, that’s all there is to say.

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Tips for You Before the Proposal

So now you think the time is near. What do you do? First, don’t give yourself away. If you love a good surprise, resist the urge to dig too much and accidentally ruin your partner’s plans. Instead, start low-key preparing for the big moment. Get your nails and eyebrows done, buy that new outfit you’ve been eyeing, and take care of yourself. Most importantly, manage your nerves. It’s easy to get carried away with excitement or feel a little anxious.Try to relax and let the proposal unfold naturally. Trust that everything will go exactly as it should.

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Can I Propose to My Partner?

You know your partner better than anyone, so if you feel like they’d love it, go for it! Remember you don’t necessarily have to propose at the same time. What matters most is that it feels right for both of you.

What Happens After the Proposal?

Fast forward; you’re engaged! So, what’s next? This is where I come in: hire a wedding planner! Planners can help with everything from full-service planning to just handling the day-of coordination. Check out Why Hiring a wedding Planner is the Key to a Stress- Free Wedding Day for more information. Plus, here are some other helpful posts to guide you through the early stages of planning:

• From ‘Yes’ to ‘I Do’: How to Start Planning Your Wedding

• Creating the Ultimate Luxury Wedding

• Indoor vs Outdoor Wedding: How to Choose the Perfect Setting

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